Monday, November 21, 2011

Beware the Unexpected

There are a lot of things you might expect to do as your parents age--help them find a home without stairs, help them with the lawn, install grab bars in their shower, buy books with larger print.  But one thing I never expected was that my mother would get Alzheimers.  I never in a million years would have believed that my mother, who always loved books, crossword puzzles (the crazy hard ones) and discussing politics and current events would one day forget the simplest of things, sometimes even the names and faces of her own children.

This is a week for being thankful, especially with Thanksgiving in the States on Thursday.  I'm thankful for lots of things most days but I'm especially thankful that I'll be able to share Thanksgiving with my parents this year, two people who I love more than anything. 

To those of you who might have parents or loved ones that are ill or suffering from Alzheimers, I'll be thinking of you too.

Sorry to get all mushy on you with this post.  It's going to be that kind of week.

18 comments:

Sarah said...

Thanks for this post, Liz. It's definitely a reminder to be grateful. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Liz, I'm sorry you have that challenge. May you find the strength to handle the situation. Remember those special moments and continue making new ones.
And have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your parents.

Maria Zannini said...

Alzheimer's is a cruel fate no human being should endure. I'm so sorry. I understand completely.

Joanne said...

I'm sorry to read this, and am so glad that you'll be with your mother on Thanksgiving. Take care, and wishing you simple comforts this week.

Sarah Pearson said...

This is a tough one. I'm glad you get to spend time with your parents, Happy Thanksgiving.

Lauri said...

We are dealing with Alzheimer's in our family too. It's beyond words horrible.

I do hope you have wonderful Thanksgiving.

Ann Best said...

Alzheimer's is a scary thing to have to face. I only got a taste of what it would be like as my 96 year old mother at the end had only dementia; but near the end I couldn't communicate with her at all. May you have the strength to endure. And may you also have a happy Thanksgiving with your family.
Ann Best, Memoir Author

Marianne Arkins said...

I think Alzheimer's is the cruelest disease of all... hugs to you and yours.

raelynbarclay said...

It is a mushy kind of week. So glad you'll be spending Thanksgiving with your parents. Wishing you joy in the simple pleasures.

Creepy Query Girl said...

That must be so so hard:( I pray you and your parents have a wonderful Thanksgiving together.

Michael Di Gesu said...

Oh, Liz ...

It is so sad, but thankfully you and your family are still together. Enjoy the good days. Remember for her. Love is stronger than anything.

My parents had died long ago, but I miss them terribly, especially during the holidays.

I pray that life runs smoothly for you during these troubled times.

Happy Thanksgiving. We are all here for you!

L'Aussie said...

Hi Liz. I'm sorry to hear of this, yet pleased you have a thankful heart. Happy Thanksgiving with your family.

Denise

LD Masterson said...

Liz, I lost my mom to Alzheimer's almost six years ago. Just hold on to the good moments and let each one create a memory you can hold on to even when she no longer can.

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

I'm so sorry. Enjoy Thanksgiving with your family, and grab onto your mom's lucid moments with both fists.

Danette said...

It's difficult to watch the people we love most go through something like this-- especially when what they are going through will take them further away from us. I am so sorry you and your family have to face this but glad you are close and have each other to lean on. Best wishes at Thanksgiving.

Trisha said...

It's a terrible disease. I'm sorry that your family has to go through this. I'm glad that you get to spend that time with your parents though. Our parents are so precious!

Liz Fichera said...

Thank you so much for the kind comments. I appreciate them more than you know. :)

Madeleine said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. My Dad was diagnosed in 2005 and is in a nursing home now.
Terry Pratchett and Iris Murdoch are 2 who used their brains lots and still got it, sadly.
Best wishes for thanksgiving.